Faith It Til You Make It
Get out of your own damn way.
What? You heard me.
The only thing standing in between you and your goal is yourself. Let me explain...
Growing up, you were given a set of belief systems – beliefs about the world, opinions about good and bad, expectations of others and ideas about what you are capable of.
Your experiences as a young kid shaped your adulthood so much so that you simply keep running through the same stories and scripts over and over within every relationship, every job and every environment you are put in UNTIL you decide it's time to break free from those limiting belief systems.
So what kinds of experiences am I talking about?
Parents' relationship with each other
Parents' relationship with you (and siblings if you have any)
Your relationships with siblings and other immediate family members
Early education experiences – ie bullying, clubs, sports, leadership, grades, friends, etc.
Poor health & disease – yours or a family member's
Trauma – physical/sexual abuse, emotional abuse and/or manipulation
These experiences are a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly. But they all make up you and your life here on earth. The more you begin to acknowledge that your early childhood is actually running the show, the more you can ditch some of the belief systems that no longer serve you as an adult.
And sure, many of your belief systems have served you well and you could not have gotten where you are today without them. But on the flip side, many of those systems have also negatively impacted your confidence, self-esteem and faith in your ability to thrive.
This is where you begin to "faith it til you make it."
I realize the actual expression is "fake it til you make it," however, I want to point out one major flaw with that theory:
It takes a considerable amount of time and effort to pretend you feel a certain way when you don't.
If you're trying to overcome anxiety, (and anyone who's had anxiety will verify this is true) there is no way you can pretend you're not experiencing anxiety and simply "fake it til you make it." It's nearly impossible to ignore the physical symptoms, let alone the fear and dread that take over during attacks.
One other flaw with the "fake it til you make it" theory is the energetic foundation of faking it. Surface level, you are trying really hard to act like everything is fine, but deep down you know it's not. And the deep down part is what matters most. The Universe is not paying attention to the smile on your face or the words that come out of your mouth. It is reflecting the energetic output you're giving off, which in this case is feeling very anxious, regardless of how you're trying to come off to other people.
So this is what I suggest: Adapt a system of faith.
Now, I'm not suggesting you go join a church (you can if you want, but that's not my angle here). I'm not talking about that kind of faith.
I'm talking about genuine, honest-to-goodness hope, faith and trust.
You may not be able to ignore an anxiety attack and fake that everything's okay, but you can tell yourself that somehow, some way, things will turn out alright in the end.
This puts you back in charge. Over time, you will build up your confidence, self-esteem and personal power based on your own trust in yourself and faith that things will work out. In fact, the longer you do it, the more you will actually see that things do work out in the end and your faith actually becomes rooted in observable fact.
Remember: Your childhood traumas and experiences do not run the show. You do.